My husband is one of the awesome people who has to work the holiday season. For him, it’s one of the busiest seasons for his company. The company is open all year round and to be honest I do love the company he works for. Besides having to work super late a few nights a week there really isn’t anything to complain about…except for when it comes to the holiday season.
Each year it seems that companies are opening up earlier and earlier for the holiday season. For my husband, he has the responsibility to work almost every holiday, which means we don’t get to spend a lot of time together. For many years this would upset me and I would express my frustration out on him.
I was upset because he would be missing out on holiday traditions and spending time with our kids. I was sad because I felt that companies were stealing the joy and happiness of the holidays. I wasn’t trying to be mean or hurt him I was just upset that he had to work. I wasn’t trying to be selfish or rude, but I was wishing for just one holiday day to spend with him. In my mind, I thought I was defending him against the big bad companies, but reality was I wasn’t.
I saw how my attitude towards his work impacted him and I didn’t like the way it made him feel. I knew he wanted to be involved with the holiday cheer and he couldn’t control the fact that he has to work. I realized something very important about him and myself that made me turn my attitude around.
I started being thankful for who he was and how God blessed me with an amazing husband. I realized that he makes sacrifices to support this family which is a deep love all on its own. He is a wonderful provider who would do anything and I mean anything for his family. He is a very hard worker and is great at balancing work/home life. He rarely complains and I have heard from his coworkers that he is a wonderful boss to work for.
When I turned my attitude around, I noticed he felt loved and appreciated and that is more important to me than expressing my dislike of him working the holidays. I remembered that I used to work on the holidays out of necessity and that some of us don’t have that option to not work. As I realized all this and more, I became more compassionate and respectful towards him. It says in Proverbs 31:11- 12
The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.”
I want to be this for my husband. I want him to feel loved and respected when he comes home from work. I don’t want to be that nagging wife when he has worked so hard for everything we have. I know I’m not the worst wife in the world and I am only human but I strive to be better everyday because it tells a lot about who I am and my character as a wife.
I understand that hospitals, policemen, firemen and many more people sacrifices their holiday season to serve us. I appreciate everyone who takes the time to work. They make sacrifices for their families because they have responsibilities. I give a big THANK YOU to you and encourage anyone to brighten the day of someone who is working on the holidays.
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