Breaking the negative cycle


Sometimes we tend to look back at our faults and failures instead of looking forward. While it isn’t bad to look back to look for solutions to fix a problem, it can become a problem when we become fixated on our faults or failures and start to degrade ourselves.

We start to question ourselves and why the scenario played out that way. We start to compare ourselves to others, become angry, upset or even shameful of the things we have done. Next thing you know your on this negative loop that keeps playing the same track over and over again.

I know for me personally the best thing I have done to stop this negative cycle is to pray. I will pray that I will not fix my heart on the issue but rather let God take the hurt and shame and start looking for the positive things the situation has to teach me.

Next if I can’t accomplish overcoming this negative cycle by myself, I will reach out to my husband, someone I trust, or a leader in my church to help me break this negative pattern of degrading myself. This usually help me find why I’m focusing on this thought and we pray that the negative hold will break. This usually breaks the pattern and I feel free from the never ending negative cycle.

Sometimes the negative thought will try to come back a few days later but I will rebuke it which means it puts an end to it through Jesus name. Once I have done that, the negative thought doesn’t have a hold over me because I have found the truth to why I was feeling that way. Instead I acknowledge it was something I had done but I no longer need to feel shame and regret. I start to speak life into the situation and my heart instead of failure, shame and regret.

I have personally found out that every situation that I have tried to fix on my own never works. But every time I lean on God to help me He never fails. God says once we have been forgiven we have been forgiven. There is no need to punish ourselves or think badly of ourselves.

When I was a new Christian this was so hard for me to believe because I grew up in a home that loved to look at shame and faults instead of positive encouragement. I know I don’t have to live that way and I can focus on the positive aspects of my life and I hope that you will to. Life is to short to focus on our shame, especially if we know we have been forgiven.

“as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.”

Psalms 103:12

If you need prayer please reach out. You don’t need to do this on your own. If you don’t believe in God or the Christian faith, I still encourage you to reach out for prayer. Even if you may not feel or hear anything it’s always nice to have someone care about you and understand where you are coming from.

6 thoughts on “Breaking the negative cycle

  1. I’m just now coming out of a dark period where I felt I was lost, alone and afraid. I didn’t think God was hearing me; hasn’t been for a while. Finally, I was feeling so hopeless, lost and thought nothing was moving forward, I had nothing else BUT to pray to SOMETHING. I felt no love of anything in my heart so I called out to God, even though I had lost faith that even He could help. Strange to say despite my doubts – I’m worse than Thomas – little things changed, starting with my emotions. It went from there. Hopefully, it’s just the beginning of a journey out of this darkness called mental illness – that I AM treating – but in the winter, it is re-triggered so I have a lightbox. Even with that, I get really down. Nothing seems…right. Getting locked between your ears is nasty. To break this cycle is tough. Reaching out to someone, anyone, such as God, is needed. Thank you for this post.

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    1. Thank you for reading! It can be hard to break the cycle of negative thoughts. I know for years I didn’t know if I was hearing God or if he cared but then one day I decided to go back to church and really pursue Him and everything changed. It was like a light was turned on and I was connected with all the right people who helped me get out of this cycle. I will keep praying that you will find comfort and security in the beautiful person He has created you to be and that negative chains will start breaking!!

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  2. “I grew up in a home that loved to look at shame and faults instead of positive encouragement.”
    This describes my father so well. I feel like he’s passed the shame down to me. I’m always criticizing myself, making myself wrong, and over-apologizing.

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